Handling an Attention - Seeking Child (Do's & Don'ts)
Among all students in your classroom, there's one single child who's repeatedly calling you. Come up to you so many times for no good reason. Cry a lot, fight a lot, constantly staring at you or many other similar habits are there. These kids actually just need pure and simple attention. Why it is so? How teachers should handle that situation? Today we're answering all these doubts, as so many teachers are struggling with it:
First Things First: Find the "Why?"
When we first got custody of such child, an expert at causing a scene anytime, anywhere. They wanted to be sure everyone saw them, gave them attention, and that all of the attention went to them and not on other students in classroom.
Attention seeking kids traveled a hard road of neglect and to them, any attention is good attention. According to nobullying.com, one of the main reasons children have attention seeking behavior is that some children get as little as 7 minutes a day of one on one time with their parents! 7 minutes a day!
So how do you know if your child is an attention seeker?
According to nobullying.com these are the different types of attention seekers -
- Those that fake illness to get attention.
- The child that is overly dramatic.
- The child that causes harm to another person just to play the hero in the situation.
- The child that puts themselves as the leader in any situation to receive attention.
- The child that plays one parent against the other.
- The child that acts as though they are super busy and over the top important so that it amazes people that they are able to complete everything on their plate.
- The one who pretends to be a victim over the smallest of situations.
It is important to seek professional help if the underlying cause is something extremely traumatic. However, in most cases, you can talk to your child about these underlying issues and then move on to the next steps.
Build Your Child Up
Make them to feel secure. That they had a permanent place in our life. Treat them with some love & care and sooner or later they'll respond to your fondness with full heart out. Steadily, their fear of negligence will also shed down. Ultimately, those kids will become more easy & comfortable.
A couple of tips on how to successfully build your child up
1. Give Words of Affirmation - Any child that is acting in a way to seek attention is feeling insecure within themselves. It is important to tell your child how special they are and how much they mean to you.
For instance, tell your child at random just how loved they are. One way you can do this is to randomly yell name of those kid and say (very loudly), "Hello brighter sun, how are you today!!!" It gets the whole class's attention, usually brings about a lot of laughter, and though that little face turns cherry red they just loves the special attention and the random reminder of how loved they truly are.
2. Focus on the Positive - Try to focus more on the positive that your child is doing instead of the attention seeking behavior.
Drop the Guilt, Not the Ground Rules
We can teach our children but it is up to them what they do with that teaching. So stop the self-inflicted guilt trip.
That said, we are the teachers. We have to develop steady rules that our kids can follow and know that they will be the same in each situation. This is not being "mean" but teaching good behavior.
Consistency is key in this situation
Attention seeking behavior can present many challenges within a family of students. However, do not give up! Our kids can overcome this with communication, love, and support. Use this trial as an opportunity to deepen and grow your relationship with your students. They will appreciate you for it in the long-run.